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There Is No Right Way to Do This
The Right Way Fallacy
Don’t look for the right way to be creative. Sometimes, the mistakes are the best parts.
Perfectionism is deceptive; it does its work in many disguises. One of these is in seeking permission to do what you want to do, through excessive research and looking for some version of “the right way.”
It’s natural to crave certainty. We want structure to take less risk. We want a “tried and true” method that generally works. And we, as the people in this case, tend to confuse this feeling of certainty with objective likelihood.
Savvy marketers, authors, teachers, and information entrepreneurs notice this craving. Perhaps with the best of intentions (but many times with a profit motive), they attempt to make specific experiences and advice general.
But a lot of times, it just doesn’t work. The main reason is because:
Each individual person has specific personalities, preferences, and strengths. The circumstances are also specific; but they are also complex, in that they change.
But still, with so many “successful” and seemingly credible people claiming their way is best, the implicit — and perhaps charitably, unintended — message gets across:
